Confirmed Presenters:

Alexian. Alexian delivers the message of the Goddess in a modern electronic style. Whether it’s a big crowd like the Heartland Festival or an intimate evening at a pagan bookstore, his performances run the gamut from deep messages of Earth-centered spirituality, as in “Save Me,” to fun dance tunes, like “Cool to Be a Witch.”
Raised on a farm in the Ozarks, Alexian felt a connection to nature from an early age. When he moved to Boston to pursue his musical education, he recognized that connection in a call to serve the Goddess. In addition to graduating from the Berklee College of Music with a triple bachelor’s degree in music synthesis, songwriting/composition, and music education, he was initiated into the Alexandrian tradition of Wicca. He is High Priest and founder of the Orlando-based Alexandrian Coven Twisted Oak and also a student of Qabala and the Golden Dawn System of Magick.
Alexian lives in Florida with his husband and a backyard full of carefully nurtured orchids. He founded his own label, Earth Tones Studios, and the online music store, In addition to working on new songs, Alexian teaches private online lessons in voice, piano and songwriting.   

David Coffman. David is a Virginia Beach attorney. He regularly presents a workshop on "Pagans and the Law" at the Hampton Roads Autumn Moon Festival / Pagan Pride Day. David represented PagaNet, Inc. from 1998-2010, and served on its Board of Directors from 2000-2003.  David has served on the Hampton Roads Pride Board of Directors from 2017 to present.


Eric Eldritch.  Eldritch is a Radical Faerie, Urban Shaman, and a Priestx of Stone Circle Wicca (USA), who lives near Washington, DC. Eldritch is a community organizer with leadership experience in organizational development based on principles of group identity, sociolinguistics, and cross-cultural relations. Drawing on over 20 years of experience in ceremonial and ecstatic forms of worship for ritual construction, he specializes in designing interfaith worship, planning spiritual retreats and leading men’s gatherings. In 2019, he was ordained Rev. E. Eldritch, by Circle Sanctuary and is a co-administrator for Circle’s Ministry Training Program. Eldritch consults with Pagan and community groups to create events that organize, energize, and inspire.

Sir Hex Nottingham.  Raised as a Shield Knight and Priest of the Loyal Arthurian Warband by Arthur Pendragon in Stonehenge, student of the Order of Bards, Ovates, and Druids, member of the Ancient Order of Druids in America, and appointed as Principle Drummer of the Stonehenge Druids. A lifelong Witch, studying the many ways of the Craft since childhood, Hex has made 5 pilgrimages to the United Kingdom visiting some of the most sacred Druid and Celtic temples, and worked with many amazing people along the way, even sharing the stage with international Pagan recording artist Damh the Bard to an audience of 400 Druids in Glastonbury and two private shows of 100 in Pennsylvania. In 2015, Hex conducted the Midsummer Sunset Ceremony inside Stonehenge to a crowd of about 30,000 people. Hex, along with Stonehenge ArchDruid Rollo Maughling, made history by being the first booked musical act at Stonehenge Summer Solstice since its 30 year ban.  Hex may also have been the first Druid to make global news on Yahoo's global news homepage.

Mel Mystery. Mel is an eclectic Hellenistic Druid with a little bit of Norse thrown in. Mel hosts his own podcast "Discovering the Male Mysteries" for gay and bi Pagan men. Mel recently published a book on LGBT werewolves in mythology and folklore titled "The Gay Guy's Guide to Werewolves and Other Man Beasts." Mel also dabbles in photography.

Mike Gwydion Ream (aka Gwydion the Grey - Magus & Bard) as been a publicly performing pagan & actor since 1994. Over the years he has been involved in such groups as ADF, RDNA, PagaNet, & The Living Wiccan Foundation.

He currently lives in Columbus, OH & is a Freelance Instructor & Intuitive Consultant @ The Magical Druid.

Roger Scott was raised by wolves in the wilds of Canada.  According to his she-wolf mother, he never mastered the art of marking his territory.  At the age of 12, Roger joined a traveling carnival.  This experience engendered in Roger an intense sexual fascination for clowns and an irrational  fear of funnel cakes.   Roger's many talents include boiling water, playing the national anthem on his armpits, and the harmonica.  Roger is a certified music therapist moonlighting as a medical case manager for people living with HIV. His upbringing in a wolf pack makes him especially suited to facilitating group discussions, as he often had to break up fights with his siblings.

  Tomás Prower.  Tomás Prower is a graduate of the University of California: Santa Barbara with degrees in Global Socioeconomics and Latin American Studies. With fluency in English, French, and Spanish, he has worked for the French Government as a cultural liaison throughout South America with extended assignments in Buenos Aires, Santiago de Chile, and the Amazon jungle. Since then, he has been the External Relations Director for the American Red Cross of Nevada, LGBT+ Programs Director for entertainment productions in Los Angeles, and a licensed mortuary professional in California and Nevada. Currently, Tomás resides in his hometown of L.A. as a writer and author of popular fiction and non-fiction works.    
  Wes Jolly.  Rev. Wes has had a long and varied path, growing up in the Ozark mountains of Northern Arkansas. Like many who grew up in the rural South, his path began in a Christian church, in his case Southern Baptist. As a young man he suffered a crisis of faith that led to walking down many different paths, but when he found Ár nDraíocht Féin he found a place where his oddly shaped peg fit. He completed a twenty year career in the US Navy, raised five children, and too many dogs. He is currently ordained through the Universal Life Church, but he is working on completing the Dedicant Path, with the intention of seeking ordination as clergy in the ADF. He keeps a post-Viking Celtic hearth, and worships as a member of the Three Branch Rivers Grove in Hampton Roads, Virginia, where he serves as the Grove Preceptor and Purse Warden. He also serves as the Listmaster and Forum Moderator for ADF, and the Coordinator of the Military Outreach special interest group.



Confirmed Workshops:

Ancestral Paganism - Hosted by Eric Eldritch.
Exploring the religion of your ancestral spirit. Languages and lineage may be lost, customs may fade away, but the blood remembers. Take a moment for a conversation of who you are, where you come from and how your choices now shape your future.  Led by Rev. E. Eldritch, Circle Sanctuary.
BIOCOSMIC - Hosted by Sir Hex Nottingham.
An empowering, joyful, and awe inspiring oration on the real science of magick and wonder that connects us with the universe from the subatomic level to the expanse of galaxies.
Immediately followed by "InnerKinnetic"; A 5 minute rhythmic guided meditation in spoken word rhyme form that will stir your emotions.
You will leave more wise and validated. You will be affected.
"Bring Your Own Pizza" Party and Wrap Up Session
At the end of our regular physical retreats, we usually go out for lunch at a nearby pizza place.  This is usually a chance to decompress from the weekend, to share our personal experiences from the retreat, to look at what went right and would could have been better, and to start brainstorming themes for next year.  Please bring your own pizza (or other snacks) and join us for our final activity for this year's Brotherhood by the Bog retreat.
History of Brotherhood by the Bog - Hosted by Mel Mystery.
An overview of the Brotherhood by the Bog retreat starting with how it all started with earlier retreats in the 2000s.  Will talk about topics and themes explored over the years and guest presenters we've had.  What have been some of our favorite retreats?  We'll also talk about some of the unique features of First Landing State Park in Virginia Beach where the retreat is usually held, and some nearby attractions.  Did you know there's a Native American burial mound in the park?  That there's a huge statue of Neptune in Virginia Beach?  That just down the street from the park is the Edgar Cayce Association for Research and Enlightenment Center complete with a large occult library?
MORBID MAGIC - Hosted by Tomás Prower.
  • A multicultural deep-dive into the mythology of Underworld/Death deities, legends, and lore about from around the world throughout human history. As well as practical advice on funeral/after-death planning for queer pagan men by a queer pagan licensed mortuary professional.

    • Students will learn:

      • The history of necromantic magic and mysticism.

      • Funerary rituals in religions around the globe.

      • The macabre lore of Underworld deities and divinities of the Middle East, Africa, Europe, India, East Asia, Australia, Polynesia, Latin America, and Native North America.

      • The cultural and historical context for death rituals and afterlife beliefs that is displayed in various cultures’ lore, myths, and legends.

      • How to navigate the modern hetero-normative Judeo-Christian funeral industry to ensure you get the queer Pagan spiritual send-off you want and deserve.


Our Haunted Lives - Hosted by Sir Hex Nottingham.

From the curious to the comforting, the hilarious to the utterly terrifying. Spirit activity and ghost sightings have been a part of the human story since before there were words to tell it. As the darkness embraces us, sit with me by the fire light as we hear the tales, delve into the variations, discuss the mysteries, embrace the science, and ask the questions some of us have yet to ask. Some of which we've always wondered, some we've never considered. And why would the late Brooklyn rap legend, Biggie Smalls be reaching out to a Witch from South East Virginia?

Join us in Brotherhood by the Bog, and you may just believe that it happened.

Paganism and the Law - Hosted by Virginia Beach attorney, David Coffman.

An interactive live workshop allowing Pagans and their allies an opportunity to ask an attorney legal questions involving the Neo-Pagan movement.  This year (2021), questions should be submitted virtually in the Zoom chat box or Q&A box.  The questions should be general in nature and involve Neo-Paganism, not personal legal advice.

Paganism and the Pandemic - Moderated by Roger Scott.

A moderated discussion on how our Pagan practices and communities have changed this past year due to the Coronavirus pandemic.

QUEER MAGIC -- Hosted by Tomás Prower.

  • A multicultural deep-dive into the mythology of queer deities, legends, and historical leaders from around the world throughout human history. 
    • Students will learn:
      • The history of magic and mysticism from an LGBTQIA+ lens.
      • The infinite forms of queerness in religions around the globe.
      • The queer lore of deities and divinities of the Middle East, Africa, Europe, India, East Asia, Australia, Polynesia, Latin America, and Native North America.
      • The cultural and historical context for the queerness that is displayed in various cultures’ lore, myths, and legends.

Self-Care During Difficult Times - Hosted by Sage Haver.

Discussing strategies to take care of ourselves during the pandemic and other stressful times in our lives and in the collective.

"Show and Spell" Icebreaker - Facilitated by Eric Eldritch.

Show and tell us about a favorite magickal item, something you've made, your favorite book, a spell gone right or wrong, promote your own Pagan book or product, tell us about a Pagan group or event you're involved with, or share something symbolic of a transformational moment in your life.  Each person attending will be given five minutes to show us their item and talk about it.  After everyone has had a chance to share, if there's time left, we'll do another round, maybe even two.

Thinking Outside Covid - Moderated by Roger Scott

A moderated discussion on coming up with and implementing long-term goals and changes after Covid.  How do we move forward with our lives and goals?

Transformation and Tribulations: A panel discussion - Moderated by Wes Jolly.

Our presenter's and worship leaders will discuss the transformations they have experiences during and/or as a result of the Covid-19 pandemic and ensuing quarantine. You can submit questions to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. before the panel, or ask your questions via chat to the discussion moderator.

WALKING THE WEIRD WAYS - Hosted by Gwydion.

Incorporating elements of Discordianism, Chaos Magick, & Pop Culture into you magical and personal practices.  In this broad overview workshop, we will touch on such topics as 'reality tunnels' & 'mind hacks' from Robert Anton Wilson, "symbols of the Devine in the trash stratum" as per Phillip K. Dick, various creativity techniques from William S. Burroughs, and whatever other weirdness we can squeeze in.

Welcome and Introduction - Hosted by Mel Mystery.

An introduction to Brotherhood by the Bog, our theme for this year, an overview of our guidelines and code of conduct for the virtual retreat, and an ice breaker activity to introduce ourselves.

WEREWOLF SEXUALITY (18+) -- Hosted by Mel Mystery.

Do werewolves lust after more than just blood?  This discussion will focus on the sexual appetites of werewolves and other shapeshifters in popular culture, mythology, folklore, and historical accounts.

When we think of werewolves, we often think of violence, homicidal tendencies, and blood lust.  I'd like to suggest that sexuality and sexual lust have also been associated with werewolves since the beginning of time.   I'm going to weave a story of shapeshifter sexuality throughout history. Whether it be homosexual initiations into ancient wolf cults, gender-shifting fox spirits that bring both good luck and venereal disease, or sexual deviancy associated with those accused of being werewolves in the Middle Ages.  In many modern werewolf movies, there’s also this idea that werewolves have heightened sexual lust and allure as part of their animal nature.


Confirmed Rituals:

Opening Ritual - Featuring Mel Mystery, David Coffman, and Sage Haver.  Led by Mel Mystery.

Join us virtually near the beach among some water oaks for our opening ritual.  

Closing Ritual - Featuring Sage Haver, David Coffman, and Mel Mystery.  Led by Sage Haver.

Join us virtually at the Native American burial mound at First Landing State Park for our closing ritual. 

Main Ritual - Hosted by Wes Jolly.

An ADF style ritual focusing on change and transformation. 

Friday Night Ritual - Hosted by Gwydion Ream.
 Incorporating elements of Druidry, Discordianism, and pop culture, this ritual offers a light-hearted way of acknowledging ancestors of blood & spirit, spirits of nature & place, and deities of your choice culminating in a guided meditation.

Confirmed Entertainment:

Music Concert by Alexian.

Alexian delivers the message of the Goddess in a modern electronic style.  This one hour concert will run the gamut from deep messages of Earth-centered spirituality, as in “Save Me” and "Listen to the Wind", to upbeat fun dance tunes, like “Cool to Be a Witch 2.0.” Don't miss the magick!



well, now that I got your attention, it's actually more like just us entertaining each other.

Do you sing? Tell stories? Play an instrument? Do stand up? Know some stupid human tricks? Why not share with the rest of us.

Each participant will be given a 5 minute block of time. Do you need more time? A second consecutive 5 minute block can be added to your request based on the number of participants and over time restrictions.

If you are interested in participating contact gwydion (This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.) with your name, what you would like to do & if you need an extra block of time.


Pagan Game Night - Hosted by Gwydion Ream.

Join us Thursday 4/22 @9pm Eastern Time for a relaxing round Robin of party games. Gwydion will be our MC for such fun & frivolity as WeirdoTrivia, Two truths & a lie, hangman, Madlibs, and more.


Registration for our Virtual Brotherhood by the Bog retreat is free!

All attendees must agree to and adhere to our Virtual Policies and Guidelines.

Registration is simple this year.  Just join our 2021 Virtual Brotherhood by the Bog Facebook group.

The schedule, announcements, virtual links to workshops and activities, and other relevant information will be shared in this group.

We encourage you to take in as much of our virtual retreat as you can, but we realize you may not be able to attend everything due to your work schedule, differing time zones, and other factors. 


Brotherhood by the Bog: A Spiritual Experience for Pagan and Pagan-friendly Men


April 22-25, 2021


We're going virtual this year!

This year's event is free!!!




Brotherhood by the Bog

Brotherhood by the Bog is an annual men's spiritual and bonding experience.  Our event usually takes place in the spring at First Landing State Park in Virginia Beach, but this year we've decided to go VIRTUAL. The focus is primarily Pagan though all respectful seekers are welcome. We welcome men of all sexual orientations and backgrounds.

This year the retreat is being co-sponsored by Brotherhood by the Bog and the Tidewater Spirit Coalition men's group.


Be sure to join our general  Facebook group for overall announcements.
We will be creating a special  Facebook group for those attending this year's virtual retreat  and a Facebook event page where you can RSVP  (links coming soon).


Want to host a workshop? 

We have a number of workshop slots open at this time.  Your workshop should be related to the concept of "metamorphosis", Paganism, Pagan paths and practices, Pagan men, or the men's movement.   Rituals, crafts, and other activities are also welcome.  We value diversity and would especially like to invite gay and bi Pagan men, Trans men, and Men of Color to present.   We will be filling a dozen or more workshop slots.  We do not have a specific deadline for workshop proposals though the earlier you get your proposal in, the better chance your workshop will be approved.  A full schedule of will be posted to our 2021 Retreat Facebook page as we get closer to the event.

Send your workshop proposals This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..  Be sure to put "BBTB Workshop Proposal" in the e-mail subject line.

Virtual Brotherhood by the Bog

Guidelines, Etiquette, and Code of Conduct

By participating in the Virtual Brotherhood by the Bog event, you agree to the following guidelines, code of conduct, and virtual etiquette policies. Violation of these policies may be grounds for dismissal from the virtual retreat.

This is our first virtual event, so other items may be added to this list as we go along.  We hope to offer a finalized version at the start of the retreat on April 22. 

General Guidelines


Attendance to the Virtual Brotherhood by the Bog (BBTB) is open to all respectful seekers who feel they have something to learn or offer by participating.  The event itself is marketed toward Pagan men, but we welcome curious non-Pagans and even women to the event - though it should be realized that the focus of the weekend is brotherhood, and our workshops and activities will be Pagan-oriented and male and masculine focused.  Gay, Bi, and Trans men are welcome and will be represented.  Straight and cisgender men will also be represented.  The event is open to all respectful seekers regardless of path, practice, political or religious affiliation, or other characteristics.

We realize that many folks will be attending our workshops and activities while juggling mundane activities such as work, family, and other obligations.  We encourage you to take in as many workshops and activities as you can, but we realize that you may not be able to attend everything.  We hope to offer recordings of our workshops and activities at a later time for those who cannot attend during their regular scheduled time. 

This virtual event is free. To attend, you must agree to our “Guidelines, Etiquette, and Code of Conduct” and join our Virtual BBTB Facebook group.  Links to all workshops and events will be posted there.


Minors over the age of 16 may attend with parental approval.  They may not attend any workshops or activities designated as 18+.


Please use the discussion board on the Virtual BBTB Facebook group for any necessary communication during the retreat – this includes sharing workshop and activity links, technical difficulties, if a workshop or activity is running late, and so forth.  Please reserve communication on the main discussion board to necessary communication related to logistics of the virtual retreat.  Please use rooms within the Facebook group for socializing and/or extended conversations regarding workshops and activities. If you have any questions or concerns, you may direct those to the main discussion board or contact any of our staff directly through Facebook Messenger.

 Workshop and Activity Proposals

We welcome you to propose and present a workshop, ritual, or other activity.  We have a limited number of workshop slots available.  Your workshop should be related to the concept of "metamorphosis", Paganism, Pagan paths and practices, Pagan men, or the men's movement.   Rituals, crafts, and other activities are welcome.  We value diversity and would especially like to invite gay and bi Pagan men, Trans men, and Men of Color to present.   If your workshop will discuss mature themes, please let us know so we can add an 18+ rating to your event.  We will be filling a dozen or more workshop slots.  We do not have a specific deadline for workshop proposals though the earlier you get your proposal in, the better chance your workshop will be approved.  A full schedule will be posted to our 2021 Retreat Facebook page as we get closer to the event. 

Virtual Platforms

To keep things simple, we have opted for the following virtual platforms during the course of this event.

Virtual BBTB Facebook Group -- this group will be a primary means of communication between the planners and attendees and vice-versa.  To protect the privacy of attendees, this group requires approval and acceptance of our “Guidelines, Etiquette, and Code of Conduct” to join.  Here announcements will be made, links to virtual workshops will be sent, and links to recorded workshops will be shared.  Attendees and workshop presenters experiencing technical problems or other issues may share them here.  We may offer “rooms” as a social component during the retreat.

Zoom -- most workshops and activities will take place in Zoom.  This is a common virtual meeting platform that many are already familiar with during this pandemic.  Zoom offers a virtual chat function and also the ability to record workshops to be shown again later. 

BBTB YouTube Channel -- we have created a private YouTube channel to share recorded workshops and other events.

Vendors / Networking

We ask that you keep the sharing of your group, services, and vendor information and links to a minimum during the retreat so as not to distract from the weekend’s activities or clutter the discussion boards.  We do want to offer you the opportunity to share your information and feel the best place for this is in your virtual introduction at the start of the retreat and also when saying goodbye at the end of the retreat. Please share any group, services or vendor information and links during your initial introduction on the Virtual BBTB Facebook group at the beginning of the retreat and feel free to remind folks of your relevant links and contact information on the discussion board once the retreat has concluded.  All introductions and goodbyes should be brief and relate to the audiences represented in the retreat.

Digital Recording

Please be aware that most workshops, rituals, and activities will be recorded so that those who could not attend can watch them at a later time.  These will be shared to a private YouTube channel.  To protect the privacy of participants, please do not share this link with others who did not attend the virtual retreat.

The recording, sharing, or publishing of any video or photos from the virtual retreat for any reasons beyond the retreat itself are not permitted. 

Brotherhood by the Bog reserves the right to use some images for archival and  marketing purposes and on our website.  If you have any concerns about your personal image appearing anywhere public, please contact a staff member. 

Code of Conduct

  1. Please be respectful and courteous to other presenters, other attendees, and staff during the virtual retreat.
  2. BBTB is a spiritual retreat, not a political one.  Therefore, any discussions of politics should relate specifically to Pagan or men’s concerns, if these are discussed at all.
  3. Hate speech will not be tolerated.
  4. Abusive language or behavior will not be tolerated.


Virtual Etiquette and Moderation

  1. Please be on time for all events as this will allow presenters to start on time and minimize distractions during their workshops.  In most cases, presenters will start allowing participants in 5-10 minutes early so the activity may start on time.  If you must be late, please enter quietly.
  2. Please mute your microphone during workshops and activities when you are not actively presenting or contributing to discussion.  This will help reduce background noise..
  3. Presenters will state their preferences whether they will accept questions during the workshop or whether there will be a Q&A session at the end.  Please abide by their preferences.
  4. A timekeeper / moderator will be appointed for each workshop / activity to ensure that each event wraps up on time. He will alert the presenter by private Zoom message at the 15-minutes, 10-minutes, and 5-minutes before the scheduled end of the workshop.  The timekeeper will also watch the virtual chats and alert the presenter by private message if there are any questions or comments that require attention.  In some cases, the presenter may ask that questions and comments be saved until the end of the workshop.
  5. We encourage you to participate in workshop discussions, but you aren’t expected to talk.·        
  6. Please don’t dominate the conversation.  Allow other folks time to talk when audience participation is allowed.

Photos of Brotherhood by the Bog Past Retreats

The current Brotherhood by the Bog retreats started in 2016. Most photos were taken by Mel Mystery or David Coffman.






Classic Retreats

These retreats were put on by mostly the same organizers and ran from 2003 to 2007.  Most photos were taken by Mel Mystery or David Coffman.



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